Why do you think that society views black men dating white women differently than white men dating black women?
Personally, I think you love who you love and that’s it, but I am very curious as to what other people think about this… Thanks 
I have noticed the difference with black men / white women relationships and the way society treats them compared to black women / white men relationships.
In college almost every Black guy on campus (and there were only a handful of black students as it was a predominantly white college) dated a white girl. I would ask them why they were so into white girls and most would say us black girls were too loud, too demanding, wanting to be in charge of the relationship. everyone felt like black guy/white girl was okay but i tried dating a white guy and all the black students were very upset. they thought i was betraying them or something. but how was it right for the guys and not for me?
I think it’s more common to see black men with white women and people are more okay with that but I think we black women need to start upping our game. I’m not saying white men are better because we shouldn’t be dating race. i’m saying if you are finding what you need in another race go for it. i like all races! if i find what i need in a particular man i’m going for it and i can’t let society dictate what my needs are. i have to do for me. who cares who scrunches up their face…i don’t have time for that.
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I wasn’t aware that those two different circumstances were viewed any differently.
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I don’t know.
For some reason it seems to be ok for a black successful man to date a non-black woman, but it’s not ok for a black woman to date a non-black man.
Tall, dark and handsome,
Fair skinned, blond hair, blue eyes.
Interesting how beauty by the media’s standards is the opposite for each gender.
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Well actually white woman love the black man. but a black woman feels like she needs a great man and it dosent matter if he is another race.
stereotype of how they may feel
personally i like white guys they are cute.
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i never really noticed a difference. i suppose interracial couples are viewed differently sometimes but in these situations specifically, i never noticed anything different between the two.
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I believe it lies in the reason why a Black man dates a White woman. Sometimes its just that he is raised in a predominately white neighborhood so he cant help it. But many Black men downtalk black women and only actively pursue white women because he sees her as better. (for whatever reasons). Black women who date white men may date him because of no luck with black men. Black men intimidated by her success or she is just surrounded by them at work. Not saying black women dont downtalk black men but a white man is generally the 2nd pick. Plus the percentage or bw wm is alot less the bm ww.
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To arrive at this conclusion you must either judge society by your own standards, formulate your opinion amongst your own associates, or have access to a wider published consensus of opinion. I think you should say where you get your information from before others can respond meaningfully. Your follow up seems an admirable sentiment, but you leave me in some doubt as to the motive behind your question.
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uhhh….I didn’t know that people think of black man/white woman different than white man/black woman relationships. Maybe cuz I’m not attracted to black or white guys so I don’t pay attention. In fact, I don’t think anything of any kinds of interracial couples. I’ve seen all different combinations and they all seem happy so who cares.
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Society used to be more afraid of black men/white women, like the black men were "stealing" their women like they were property. They didn’t seem to care as much about black women, because it was like white men were "gaining" them. I think things have changed in most places now and most don’t think this way anymore.
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People don’t want to see black women making their own choices and being happy with whomever they choose. Nor do they want to see white men appreciating different types of beauty than what’s thrown at us.
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RaTz, think you hit the nail on the head. I think a lot of white men felt that black men had no right to "steal" their white women, but as a white man they feel entitled to whatever they want, so they have the "right" to a black woman… or any woman.
I, personally, don’t really care who dates who.
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I have noticed the difference with black men / white women relationships and the way society treats them compared to black women / white men relationships.
In college almost every Black guy on campus (and there were only a handful of black students as it was a predominantly white college) dated a white girl. I would ask them why they were so into white girls and most would say us black girls were too loud, too demanding, wanting to be in charge of the relationship. everyone felt like black guy/white girl was okay but i tried dating a white guy and all the black students were very upset. they thought i was betraying them or something. but how was it right for the guys and not for me?
I think it’s more common to see black men with white women and people are more okay with that but I think we black women need to start upping our game. I’m not saying white men are better because we shouldn’t be dating race. i’m saying if you are finding what you need in another race go for it. i like all races! if i find what i need in a particular man i’m going for it and i can’t let society dictate what my needs are. i have to do for me. who cares who scrunches up their face…i don’t have time for that.
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I don’t agree in either way I believe race should stay with their own race.
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