what are some African-American views/ perspectives about filipina women dating black men?
I am a Filipina woman who has in the fairly recent past become attracted to Black men as this is highly discouraged in the traditional filipino community. I dated an African American man who help me rid of my ignorance and who also helped me further my education as an Ethnic Studies major. I have always identified best with African American men, women and culture so most of my close friends are black. I have several issues with dealing with my close friends and their views on interracial relationships – especially with black men. It is a difficult situation for me since they have always been my best friends, and I have recently started dating black men. I would appreciate some general thoughts in regards to the issue.
I don’t care in the least. Who is to say that rules of attraction have to be restricted to inside a race? If that were the case, some of the most attractive celebrities today wouldn’t exist. Variety is the spice of life, enjoy it. As long as love is the motive, I’m all for it.
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Never seen it, don’t care. My sister’s married to a Filipino. Is that about the same issue?
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i really don’t care as long as u love each other…my sister is married to a japanese guy so i frankly don’t care as long as they love each other
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I don’t care in the least. Who is to say that rules of attraction have to be restricted to inside a race? If that were the case, some of the most attractive celebrities today wouldn’t exist. Variety is the spice of life, enjoy it. As long as love is the motive, I’m all for it.
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I don’t like flips because they’re brown. I like me a light skinned Japanese girl
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I think that race is irrelevant.
I’m Hispanic, and my girlfriend is Yaqui Indian and African-American.
Sorry, but those people in your community are bigoted neanderthals.
A lot of my best friends are mixed with black and Filipino, so that proves that love is truly color-blind.
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I think it is perfectly fine to date whom ever you chose. It really sickens my stomach to know that in the year of 08 people are stilling looking at race. Honey if the man is treating you right, giving you respect, loving and adoring you, and lastly making you happy…it does not matter what others think. All do respect to your culture and beliefs. How can we as people become diverse if people are not willing to be open minded.
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We don’t care. We don’t even see much of that.
Edit: Date whoever you want to and don’t be afraid to do it because it may not be accepted by some close minded people.
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I don’t have a problem with it. My grandfathers wife is filipino, they’ve been married for twenty years.
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I met a phillipina and black man who were a couple at an adult bowling night not long ago they were real cool so I don’t have a problem with it.. my problem is when the people involved in an interracial relationship with a black man and non black woman … seem to keep looking at me like I am supposed to say something or act out… I don’t care I have a man
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I think people should date whomever they want. I’ve known of a number of filipino/black relationships. Some work out, some don’t.
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Whatever floats your boat. If black guys are what you like, then they’re what you like
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my cousin is married to a Filipino women. No one really has a problem with it in my family. She is real sweet and can cook so good, so I can see why any man would want her. But I do understand your delimma. In general most black women would prefer to see a black man with another black women, but don’t concerm yourself. Your friends should support your decisions and not judge you. You shouldn’t worry about what others think. I suggest that you date men you are attracted to and forget about categorizing them by race.
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It doesn’t matter to me. If there is mutual love and attraction, then you should give it a chance. Life is too short to cut out potential partners because they happen to be a different ethnicity. I’m black and my boyfriend is Japanese, and I’m so glad that neither of us worried about the interracial thing.
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I don’t give a sh*t.
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I think they’re okay with it as long as they don’t date anyone white. Black women hate when white women date "their" men and black men don’t like it when black women date outside their race period.
Edit: I will admit more black women are open minded about black men dating outside their race but with black men seeing black women dating other men (esp white men) forget about it. Downthumb me all you want but its the truth my friends.
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never seen it before but some can be angry about it and some can be alright about it
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I have a lot of Filipino friends and the majority of them date black guys more than white guys.
To each her own. Follow your heart. And like Ramon A said, love is colorblind, and race is non-existent when it comes to love.
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While in the Navy I saw this a lot. And to tell you the truth, it really doesn’t bother me. I’ve become so used to seeing it in a multi-cultural back ground that it’s old news to me. A lot of my black male friends are married too and have kids with Asian/Pacific Islander/Hispanic women, so the way I see it is if you love the one you’re with, who cares what anyone else thinks. I’ve even seen a few Filipino men who’ve made my head turn a time or two
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Don’t care.
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