Why do people have a problem with black women dating white men? Why the double standard?
February 27, 2010 | 8 Comments
I understand everyone has a preference and when black men can date white women, no one judges them but when you reverse it, the black women who date white men are always criticized. I’m a black woman who has always dated white men. For some personal reason, they have always been more attractive to me. People say that there is no difference, but when you are from mixed cultures, you tend to stick with the culture that most appeals to you mentally, physically, socially, sexually, and emotionally. I’m thinking of writing a book to support black women who choose to be with white men and need real stories and insight from real people!
So I’m interested to know the answer the to eternal question of "WHY?"
I think we have the same opinion on this issue, as do many other black women who date interracially. As a black woman who dates white men, pretty much exclusively (hey thats all Im attracted to) I have encountered quite a lot of situations where I face criticism for dating interracially or having a preference, both romantic and sexual, for white men. Its sad to say that most of the criticism I have encountered so far has been from black people….. mostly black men. I think people who oppose interracial relationships are racist, insecure and/or jealous. I have no problem seeing a black guy and a white woman together, so why are those same black guys and sometimes white women, having a problem seeing me with my boyfriend who is white? I have thought about writing a book as well about this issue, but its going to be from a different cultural perspective, being that I am Nigerian, however, I will fuly support any book that encourages black women to expand their dating options.
what are some African-American views/ perspectives about filipina women dating black men?
December 24, 2009 | 20 Comments
I am a Filipina woman who has in the fairly recent past become attracted to Black men as this is highly discouraged in the traditional filipino community. I dated an African American man who help me rid of my ignorance and who also helped me further my education as an Ethnic Studies major. I have always identified best with African American men, women and culture so most of my close friends are black. I have several issues with dealing with my close friends and their views on interracial relationships – especially with black men. It is a difficult situation for me since they have always been my best friends, and I have recently started dating black men. I would appreciate some general thoughts in regards to the issue.
I don’t care in the least. Who is to say that rules of attraction have to be restricted to inside a race? If that were the case, some of the most attractive celebrities today wouldn’t exist. Variety is the spice of life, enjoy it. As long as love is the motive, I’m all for it.
Do you think that society views black men dating white women differently than white men dating black women?
October 12, 2009 | 5 Comments
I’m doing a sociology paper on interracial relationships. I’m trying to find out what people think about black men-white women and white men-black women. Do people treat you different because of this? What has society done to make this a mess? Is it more acceptable to do one or another? Does society frown upon any of it?
I personally don’t care… You love who you love and that’s it.
Do you think that society views black men dating white women differently than white men dating black women?
October 12, 2009 | 5 Comments
I’m doing a sociology paper on interracial relationships. I’m trying to find out what people think about black men-white women and white men-black women. Do people treat you different because of this? What has society done to make this a mess? Is it more acceptable to do one or another? Does society frown upon any of it?
I personally don’t care… You love who you love and that’s it.