Casually Date or Commit?
February 3, 2011 | 15 Comments
There will probably come a time when you’re dating a girl and start to become torn as to whether you want to continue to see her as a casual date or have her become your girlfriend.
You know you like being with her and always have a great time. Yet, you’re not sure if you’re ready to “take the plunge” and commit to just one girlfriend.
Sound familiar?
While it can be frustrating to decide which way to go, it is worth taking the time to make a smart decision. After all, you don’t want to lose a good thing or lose your opportunity to see what else is out there, right?
With that in mind, a good way to decide is to make a list or pros and cons about the girl you’re interested in. Also make sure to add asterisks next the points that are highly valuable to you.
There are clear advantages and disadvantages to committing vs. being alone.
When you’re alone, you have the freedom to do as you wish. You can date and have sex with as many women as you like. If you’re not getting along with one of them, you can choose to just not see them again. There’s a level of excitement to pursue whomever you wish.
You’re free to go to strip clubs whenever you want. You don’t have to answer to anybody and you can kick girls out after sex.
However, there are disadvantages to casually dating: it can get lonely without a mate, especially during the holiday season. You don’t have that “special somebody” to just call and say “hi.” When you have events to go to for work or parties, you have to keep finding “dates” to accompany you. If you’re having a bad day, there’s not that “special someone” who can confide in. Plus, it’s fun going to bed with that special someone and waking up with them to laugh and giggle together.
Now, let’s take a look at the advantages and disadvantages of committing.
When you’re committed to someone, you no longer have the freedom to do as you wish as far as having sex with girls. The only thing you can do – if anything – is just look at girls from afar. How do you feel about that?
However, what you do have in a committed relationship is a trusted friend who can become your closest friend: someone to go to after a long, hard day at work. It’s also great to have a guaranteed companion no matter where you go. Plus, you’ll probably save money on dating since you won’t be seeing other people & hopefully split the cost of dinner and movies with your new girlfriend. Of course, the downside to committing is you now have to consider someone else beside yourself. And when you’re with just one person, the sex can become boring pretty fast. And then of course, there’s the fighting and disagreements, which can really suck.
But most men overall are happier with a partner than without. In fact, there was once a study done about happiness. And believe it or not, it said that married men are generally happier than single men.
I can tell you from past experience that this is true. When I’m with someone in a committed relationship, I’m generally a calmer person and more satisfied with life. Of course, not everyone is wired for relationships and prefer to just be a player for life, which is fine.
Only you know for sure whether you’re better off casually dating or committing. The bottom line: are you better off with this girl in your life or without?
Jenna S.
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Five Tips That Men Should Know for Writing an Outstanding Online Dating Profile
March 31, 2010 | Leave a Comment
When dating online, you must go through the process of writing a profile. Most questions are multiple choice, but there is always a section where you can pretty much write anything you want about yourself and about who you would like to date.
This section is very popular, and serious women who really want to find someone special in their lives do spend time reading it before contacting a prospect.
When dating online, it is very important to write a good essay about yourself and about who you are looking for. Those men who spend the time to come up with an essay that stands out from the crowd do get better results, more responses to their ads, and also more interesting women contacting them.
The key to getting women to make the first step toward contacting you online is to have an outstanding profile ad.
Here are five tips any man should follow to ensure the success of his online dating profile.
Have a good recent photo of yourself. Lots of women online do not even look at profiles or respond to ads that do not have photos. One reason for this is that women more than men are often solicited first by their admirers. That gives them the choice to respond to a lot of people. Why respond to a profile without a photo, an unknown, if you have three other messages in your in-box with photos?
Make sure the photo shows only you and is of good quality. Use a photo in which you can be seen clearly, one that makes you look your best. Most important, make sure it is recent and not a 10-year-old photo.
Find out who you are. Think about it. What kind of person are you? How do people perceive you? How do your friends describe you? Look at yourself through somebody else’s eyes. Ask your friends why they enjoy being your friends and how they perceive you. You might be surprised at their answers. You can use all this information when describing yourself in your profile essay.
Find out what you want. Do you want to get married and raise a family, or are you looking for a casual date at the moment? What kind of women do you like: extroverted or introverted? independent? professional? family-oriented or party-oriented? Take some time to figure this out before writing your profile. That will increase the quality of the women who reply to your ad, since only those who see themselves in your description will contact you. In return, you will be happier knowing that the prospect who is contacting you corresponds to what you want.
Be honest. This is one reason why you should be sure to put a recent picture on your profile. It is all about honesty. Don’t lie about your age, body type, status, or anything else. You don’t want to end up in a situation later where you have to clarify and justify one or several lies you put in your profile ad. That may just turn off your date and get you back to square one.
Be specific. Don’t be general when writing your profile. For example, don’t write: “I like to watch movies.” That does not say anything about you, and pretty much everyone likes to watch movies anyway. Instead, be more specific and creative.
You could, for example, write: “I am a fan of westerns, so I have seen almost all the old classic western movies featuring Clint Eastwood and John Wayne.” You see the difference? The first statement can apply to anyone, while the second reveals something about you (and is also more interesting to read).
You could also write: “Being a typical geek, a nerdy type of man, I sometimes slither up from the darkness of my basement to go watch science-fiction movies.” Since humor and creativity are often a huge turn-on for women, it is always good to laugh at yourself and be original when writing your profile essay.
Follow these five important tips when writing a profile and you will surely increase your chances of success when dating online.
David Roy
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