Some Great Ways to Deal With First Date Jitters
January 28, 2011 | Leave a Comment
First dates are extremely exciting and you may feel anxious about this upcoming event. You have every reason to be anxious because spending some quality time with a potential partner should be taken seriously. Everything should be planned before that special night. How you play your cards will determine whether or not a date is worth another try.
Now that you have passed the ‘asking for a date’ phase, the next thing that you have to be keen on is the first date. For blind dates, this could be extra hard because daters don’t have much of an idea about their would-be dates. For most people, however, they already know in advance the appearance, the qualities and traits of the person they would be dating. This is probably the reason they are going out with their dates in the first place—somehow they find something interesting and attractive about this person.
But it’s like a battleground out there, because in a date the two of you are enemies testing each other’s wit. Just like in a real war, there will be no unity until one conquers another. One good point in Sun Tsu’s The Art of War is that it stated that in every battle one has to know thy enemy. And once you become aware of your enemy’s strengths and weaknesses, you will be able to use special weapons in your arsenal to defeat them.
While it is true that actions speak louder than words, it doesn’t necessarily mean being aggressive. Gentle actions or gestures wouldn’t hurt. However, you should never try to test the limit of your date because in most cases you will end up regretting it. It is still best to sway your date with your sincerity coupled with some sense of humor. Don’t talk too much, though. Whether you are not talking about anything specific or you are talking about your career, your date may find you boring. If your date is constantly looking at the clock or simply tapping the table with his or her fingers then you need to worry.
It’s best not to ask when you will go out again right after your first date. This is especially important if you are a girl because it may give a false impression to the guy. On the other hand, the girl may feel pressured the moment you pop up that question. So if you were a guy, it’s safe to ask politely if you can see each other again. The difference between the two questions lies in its certainty—the former seeks for a specific date while the latter only hopes for another possible meeting. If the answer is a ‘yes’ or ‘sure’, then most likely you’re in for another night out. A ‘maybe’ is a safe answer. To the guy, it would mean that there is a chance that the two of you will meet again, however slim it may be. For the girls, it means having ample time to think things over while not giving away your true feelings.
Marvin Perry
Picking up a Girl in Thai culture
February 22, 2010 | 9 Comments
For a western man often experiencing the best that Thailand has to offer means experiencing the thrill of taking home, which is often acceptable to a girl in Thai culture; which is a cultural experience unique unto itself.
It is widely accepted to simply walk into a bar and take your pick of the females in the bar much like embarking on a blind date, except that you can experience multiple blind dates in one visit allowing you to choose the girl that you like the best to round your night out with. There are certain protocols to follow however once you step into the bar scene in search of a girl.
For starters, if you are in a beer bar it is likely that most of the girls will approach you like any single girls would willing to strike up conversation and eager to joke around and pal around to encourage you to stay.
They also may ask you to buy them a drink or wait for an offer since they get a cut of the price of the drinks that you purchase for them and of course because they want to drink as well. As mentioned, any girl in Thai bar culture certainly knows how to party and wants to party all night long.
If you and the girl seem to be compatible and you are thinking about continuing your companionship in another location such as your hotel or a club you will need to pay a bar fine since the girl is working.
This is acceptable and generally costs somewhere from 200-500 depending on how busy the bar is. From here you are free to take the girl out for whatever you like although it is expected that you will pay, but one thing you will quickly learn is that a girl in Thai bar society is up for almost anything.
Bruce Badger
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Dating Tips For Those On The Go
October 27, 2009 | 5 Comments
It’s a faced pace world and we barely have time to eat, sleep, spend time with the family, and work. So how do we find time to meet other singles?
Chat rooms can be a head ache. Blind dates are better off left to the blind. Meeting some one in a crowded dark, loud, and smokey club just bring the wrong people into your life. Finding the right person driving down the road, meeting at the mall or at a college class is like playing the lottery.
Online dating is a good place to start. You find a quality photo, set up a good subject line, put in all of your likes and dislikes, and finally start receiving
request.
The one thing about online dating is that you truly don’t know who you are emailing back and forth. Even when you get to meet them in person, you have no idea if they are truly single, going through a wicked divorce, or even if they have kids or not. You just have to take their word for it.
The best thing anyone can do if they can find some quality time to connect with that perfect someone is to go to a traditional dating service. Believe me its worth the extra time to have a true professional that knows how to sort out the good apples from the bad and give some quality back ground information on who you will be going out with.
It’s worth investing time upfront to find some one you could potentially spend the rest of your life with. Don’t you want to know if the have been arrested, if they are who they say they are? Than be careful and get some professional assistance. As it’s to scary out there to take dating into your own hands.
Happy dating and good luck!
Shawn Hickman
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