Messed up online dating, how can I fix it with her..?
So after meeting the girl online, we talked for about 3 days online, just emailing. We both found out we’re both Korean. After wanting to take it up on aim, after just casually emailing we both never got to talk on different times, so we didn’t email for 5 days, so I emailed her after 5 days saying we should stick to email until after that happened, we talked again for 3 more days str8, and I asked in a email for her cell, and she hasn’t answered back in 6 days.
This guy who is a professional dating coach told me I had something going good until I moved to fast. He told me I was doing good upon teasing, and just flirting casually, but once I moved too fast by asking her number and not even knowing her at least a month, I scared her away. He also told me I should either wait for her to initate, and if she doesn’t, I should wait maybe a while longer depending.
I’m pretty sure with a few people trying to flirt with her, I screwed it up. How can I still salvage it, and get somewhere, and how long should I take before I message her? What should I type?
When it comes to online dating… typically when you don’t hear back from them they got a better interest. I would say send her one more casual email about something general (not asking her why she hasn’t emailed you back) and then see what happens. If nothing after that then you should give up.
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When it comes to online dating… typically when you don’t hear back from them they got a better interest. I would say send her one more casual email about something general (not asking her why she hasn’t emailed you back) and then see what happens. If nothing after that then you should give up.
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The purpose of online dating is to move quickly to offline dating. So you shouldn’t be so upset by you asking the phone number that she cuts off contact. It’s a honest request, and it’s her job to say "Yes" or "No". She said "No" by not responding. Either way, you don’t owe her nothing but courtesy, and she owes you nothing else than courtesy.
And why are you sticking to just one girl at a time? You’re not REALLY dating her, you’re not engaged. Do you just have one friend at a time? Do you just go out with one friend at a time? She’s not even your girlfriend, so you’re not bound by a promise to just chat with one girl at a time.
Also, move offline as soon as possible. Online chats are poor substitutes for real life contact, flesh and blood. Use your online contacts to schedule offline meetings, as in Real Life. Have as many contacts rolling as you can concilliate with your offline life (work, school, leisure, whatever). If your prospective doesn’t call you back, it’s no problem since you’ve already got 20 other lined up. Don’t flaunt it, just do it.
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