Is putting a potential date(girl) on hold while talking to her over the phone considered rude?
I have recently started talking to a girl I met via Match.com. She could be a potential date and we have been talking over the phone more often.
Is it considered rude to put her on hold for few seconds when I might have to pick up another incoming call ? I just want to make sure it doesn’t come across as rude/ dis-respectful to her, especially when we have just started talking.
If you’re expecting a call that is important NOT to miss, then it’s not rude – especially not if you explain why you have to take the call to your potential date. If it’s just a random call – let them text you or something instead. I’m sure they can wait for you to be done with the first call. 
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I look at things like this, if you’re not trying to be rude, then you’re not being rude. however, if you’re being careless and harmful, thats another story.
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I would think it is, IMHO. I never do that to anyone I’m talking to on the phone, I just let voice mail get the other call. I get a little peeved when people do it to me, especially if we are in the middle of a conversation and I have to stop to wait for them to answer the other call. I equate it to having a conversation with someone in public, and having to wait for them to answer they’re cellphone, even though I’m standing right in front of them.
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If you’re expecting a call that is important NOT to miss, then it’s not rude – especially not if you explain why you have to take the call to your potential date. If it’s just a random call – let them text you or something instead. I’m sure they can wait for you to be done with the first call.
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it depends who is calling you if its your mum or dad then you must hang up on her now.
but if its your friends they can wait theyre not going anywhere but its also good to keep a woman waiting dont sound too kin.
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I don’t think so, just don’t leave her on hold very long or too often, and try not to interrupt her rudely if she’s in the middle of conversation.
If you have a lot of incoming calls, it’s annoying to be put on hold over and over. Better to tell her you need to take the call, and you’ll call her right back.
I’ve found that putting off the other calls, letting them go to voice mail, will often work to your advantage. Just saying "I’ll call him back later" tells her she is more important to talk to at the moment. Girls usually dig that.
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Absolutely. It shows others are more important to you.
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i wouldnt make too much out of it, no worries
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I think it speaks volumes about society when we develop possible relationships over the phone. The phone used to be a communication device not the communication device. I’d say let voice mail get it.
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Easy answer, girls don’t like secluded guys(meaning someone without friends or an outgoing guy), so if you say hey could you hold i have an incoming call that i need to get it shows that you aren’t too needy by needing the urge to keep talking to he. Also she will understand as soon as you say you need to get it. You really shouldn’t need to explain or validate yourself to just a potential date.You aren’t even dating so quit worrying about it.Girls love confident guys ive also noticed by showing them that you are surrounded by positive people and basically the mentality of popular people in high school, it only drives the girl to want to be the one to catch your attention.
So in short NO it isn’t rude and go ahead and do it. Same with in public nothing wrong with stopping a conversation short to answer your phone.Yet in that case make SURE you say something like one second, or I need to get this don’t just stop cold turkey in mid sentence or just cut her off with answering the phone, but you can cut her off to say one second. Make sure you don’t stay on the phone too long though.You will be golden.
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If you excused yourself and she wasn’t kept on hold for more than say 10 seconds, it is okay. Any longer than that and it would be a bit on the rude side.
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Unless I’m talking to someone who is at work and they have to answer incoming calls I find it annoying when it is a personal conversation and they can’t just let the other call go to voicemail. What’s the point of putting a person on hold just to tell the other person you are on the phone and will call them back? If you are at work though the girl should understand you can’t leave incoming calls unattended (however if at work you shouldn’t be chatting on personal calls).
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No, as long as she’s not on hold for long. I’d say either 20 seconds or a full minute is the max you could put someone on hold w/o it being too rude.
It’s nice you’re already taking in consideration her feelings, especially since this could be the start of a new relationship.
But if you’re this worried about it, then I’d just let it go to voicemail. That’s why we have voicemail. If it’s important enough, then they’ll leave a messge. Or else just tell her you’ll call her right back after taking the other call.
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Absolutely, unless you are expecting an important call. Let voice mail get it or tell her a time you will call when you can give her your undivided attention.
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Do NOT understand having to talk on the phone all the time!
It’s a little rude to do that to anyone, not just a potential date. I’d say don’t do it unless it’s a family member or a possible emergency.
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Not as long as you don’t leave her on hold over 30 seconds.
P.S. if you always stay on the phone with her once you click back over instead of letting her go to chat with someone else it’s actually a good sign for girls.
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No, but I would not keep anyone on hold for a long time. Any second caller you should deal with, getting their phone number and promising to call them back. Then resume your first call.
Phones are rude, not you. People who are calling should not be surprised if they are interrupting something.
Sometimes it is best to just ignore any other calls, especially if the pause is going to break the mood of the moment.
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