Black Men Dating White Women
December 25, 2009 | 25 Comments
Dear Jamie:
I’m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of Black female’s attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes… I could go on and on. But, right now, I’m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I’m wrong, Black men, let me know. Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
THE RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
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December 24, 2009 | 3 Comments
i used to follow them but it caused me the love of my life, if your wer givin a tips from a big brother sister or a friend should yu follow it, if not where will you base your action
Even a guru can’t be right 100% of the time. But generally, advice helps. It definitely helped me.
You have to realize that dating is a numbers game. It’s all about probabilities… nothing is for certain. *Most* people like X, but there will always be a few who want Y. So if you’ve been doing Y all along, you could get lucky; but you’re much more likely to be successful if you do X.
Accept dating advice for what it is. It’s there to help you maximize your chances, but it never pretends to guarantee results. Anyone who guarantees results is out of touch with reality.
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December 24, 2009 | 2 Comments
I put my query on single and dating yahoo answers for asking ‘how to get date from a mumbai based girl. I don’t have any girl friend even though I am well IT professional,
smart, handsome. I think As this ’single and dating’ yahoo answers is for getiing resolved our queries related to dates and single’s problems.My intention was not to date a girl here using this ‘
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stupid moderators.
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December 24, 2009 | 6 Comments
Wasn’t he a racist?
Why would Congress waste their time caring about who someone dates.
For that matter, why should you?
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December 24, 2009 | 20 Comments
I am a Filipina woman who has in the fairly recent past become attracted to Black men as this is highly discouraged in the traditional filipino community. I dated an African American man who help me rid of my ignorance and who also helped me further my education as an Ethnic Studies major. I have always identified best with African American men, women and culture so most of my close friends are black. I have several issues with dealing with my close friends and their views on interracial relationships – especially with black men. It is a difficult situation for me since they have always been my best friends, and I have recently started dating black men. I would appreciate some general thoughts in regards to the issue.
I don’t care in the least. Who is to say that rules of attraction have to be restricted to inside a race? If that were the case, some of the most attractive celebrities today wouldn’t exist. Variety is the spice of life, enjoy it. As long as love is the motive, I’m all for it.
