Tips On Dating A Ukraine Girl
November 3, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Every year hundreds of Ukraine girls marry foreigners. Why do foreigners prefer dating a Ukraine girl to the women in their own country? The reasons are obvious to Ukraine girls. Ukrainian women combine beauty with intelligence, love and independence, as well as the ability to have a great career and be a fabulous housewife. They also have good taste, a sense of humor, a special gift to cook delicious meals, and the good education that makes them idea for marriage and dating.
Most foreigners become acquainted with Ukrainian women through Internet web sites. Dating a Ukraine girl means corresponding for up to several months before the first important meeting. How long should you send letters and correspond before meeting her? There is no definite rule, but dating a Ukraine woman over the Internet may last as little as 2 months or even up to a year. It just depends on many factors. Naturally a Ukrainian lady will expect you to come to meet her as soon as possible if you are writing her daily. If you have a vacation and no plans to do anything, they would love for you to make that first meeting with her then.
When you are dating a Ukraine girl, you should pay attention to how often she writes and how soon she answers your letters. What she writes about herself is important as well, because that will tell you how interested she is in you. If she writes just general information about herself then you should consider continuing the relationship through email and letters. However is she begs you to come to meet her immediately then you should consider the fact that something might be a little fishy.
It could be that the Ukrainian lady is up to something herself, but in other cases it might be the person who is translating messages that is asking you to come quickly. Often Ukrainian women will have a person translate their letters, and if the translator that works for the agency in which you met feels that it is important not to lose a client, they may insert information that the Ukrainian lady did not say. This could be that they want you to meet them. Unfortunately for the Ukrainian women you may show up when they are simply not ready to meet.
Although meeting in most cases is very welcome and usually the idea of the Ukrainian lady, but you both should be ready for it to happen. The general rule of thumb that most Ukraine women imagine is that you will meet off the website, correspond for a few months at least through email and letters, then move on to phone calls, visit with each other at least once for a few days to a week, and then finally end in marriage. When it comes to dating a Ukraine girl, all of these steps are equally important in the process.
How can you know for sure though that she is honest and serious? Here are two tips for you that will let you know. A Ukraine girl will never ask you for money or present. She wants you, not your money. She will also answer all of your questions honestly because if her intentions are serious, she has nothing to hide. However, she will expect you to be as honest as she was.
Ukrainian ladies are known to be sensitive and tactful with a priceless ability to understand and forgive. You shouldn’t hide important facts such as if you are corresponding with other women at the same time. This is definitely the case if you are planning a trip where you want to meet all of them at the same time. If she learns it too late, then she will think she was just a pawn in your game, so you should be honest and upfront. Tell her that she may not be the right lady for you but do it with tact and respect and let her know that you have fun talking to her, but you are corresponding with another lady as well. When dating a Ukraine girl, the main thing is to be honest and make her feel that your intentions are serious.
Peter Finch
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Suggestions for Leaving an Abusive Partner by One Who’s Been There
November 3, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Though I am not a doctor, my advice comes from a combination of personal experience and therapy given to me by professionals. Leaving someone controlling and/or abusive can be (and usually is) a dangerous situation, so more than anything, my wish to you is to call your local domestic violence hotline and get help in finding a therapist that can assist you in your quest. It truly helps to have help from these places as they can help you find lodging, clothing, counseling and more, all for the asking. The help I recieved from multiple agencies to leave my ex was all free. Do not let your fear of these places scare you. You don’t have to stay in a shelter if you don’t want to. I didn’t. There are alternatives to everything. It is more scary to continue living with violence, home should be a place of refuge, not of fear. Let others help you, to get not only guidance but support.
First of all, I will briefly explain my story. I met a charming, well-heeled (or so I thought) businessman on a reputable online dating site. We hit it off, long story short, I moved in with him. As time went on, it became clear to me that he was hiding something. And, I caught him in lies about many things, big and small. After doing some snooping, it was revealed that the man had just left another woman after trying to drain her of her money. And, he had been married more times than he’d said. His whole story was a lie. I felt devastated. The more I tried to talk things over with him, the worse our relationship became. He became violent, controlling and would disappear on business trips, coming back with “signs” of another woman. He began to threaten, and became phyiscally violent. Without the free cellphone the domestic violence agency gave me, I would’ve been seriously injured or killed. I was in the process of leaving him, that is what sparked his violent rage. I was hurt, stabbed in the hand with a knife, but fought him off and locked myself in the bathroom as I called the police. They arrested him, I had a restraining order put out on him and finished moving my things the next day. Then, I was gone for good.
After this situation, I drove to a new city, far away from where he was, and got a new apartment. It took a few days, so I stayed in a hotel until the right place was found. The first place wasn’t great, but it was safe, even if I had to sleep on the floor. All my things were in storage in another state. I didn’t care, it felt good to know that I was free of the horrible person who tried to control, intimidate and hurt me. With me were my two cats, who were traumatized but ok. They adjusted to hotel living and to the new place faster than I thought they would. In time, I found a gorgeous place, brought my furniture down from the storage place, and bought new furniture. Now, I live on a lake, happily free of any pain.
So, what to do first? Start as much in advance of your move as possible. Quietly, remove things that are of value to you. Frequently, abusers will destroy things of value to their victims, it’s part of their control issues. Pack a suitcase with the basics and store that, too. You will need it if leaving in a hurry happens. Also, take important papers, photos and documents. Put them in a storage unit or apartment that is NOT close to your current residence. That way, when you’re gone, you won’t need to drive near the abuser’s place. Only take things that aren’t easily noticed, if confronted, never tell the abuser what you are doing. Your safety depends heavily on it. It’s about self-preservation, you are an adult and don’t need to explain yourself to anyone. Just calmly blow off any attempts to figure out what you are doing and be as discreet in removing items as possible.
Calmly and without anger, co-exist with your partner while secretly getting help elsewhere. Keep an even temper, so not to add tension to an already tense relationship. Keeping the peace is needed, as best as you can. Read up on the “Cycle of Violence”. It explains the build-up of tension before a fight, the fight, then the “honeymoon” period afterwards. It is a handout that every domestic violence agency has and gives out to anyone living with an abusive partner. And it is helpful in understanding the dynamics of abusers, and how to respond to them. If you can, go to a support group. This way, you can discuss your weekly goings on with others who are also going through difficult situations. A good group, in my opinion, is one that listens to stories, but also gives ideas on coping with each situation. Listening to others’ stories helped me gain the strength to leave.
Living with someone abusive can drain you of all energy, consume your mind with hopes of a better life later (no, you can’t fix the person, trust me) , and make you feel absolutely worthless. Remember, it’s the situation you are in, and not a definition of who you really are. You are a good person, in a bad relationship. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Friends of mine got mad at me for not leaving sooner, they didn’t understand why I wouldn’t just up and go to a shelter. I had pets (shelters don’t accept them) and refused to leave them with the abuser. I planned it all so I’d leave, and not leave anything of mine behind, especially my pets. Protect your pets by leaving them with others for safe keeping, if possible. Abusers will sometimes kill pets, because they know they are important to the victim. People may be upset with you for not leaving when they think you “should”, but only you know when the time is right. Sometimes it takes a few dry runs before the actual time you leave, but when you are truly fed up enough, you will know when and be done with the person. Remember, the MOST DANGEROUS time in the relationship is when you leave the abuser, this is when murders usually happen. They are losing control of you and will react in whatever way they can to take control. Take this seriously if you’re going to leave. Don’t let others dictate when you are ready, trust your own judgment.
Abusive people tend to like control, and isolating their victims. It’s subtle sometimes, but in time, the person being controlled is slowly isolated from friends and family. Each case is different. Be aware of this, and for this reason, it is important to have a confidante you can turn to, who will be there for you. It can be a friend, co-worker, or therapist. Just someone to talk to, to touch bases with, who is trustworthy and who won’t tell the abuser what you are doing. Talking to others helps you not to isolate and keep all the stress inside. In my case, I used friends in another state, and a therapist from the domestic violence center. Fight isolation. Give yourself the ability to be around others, and interact with them. This gives you a voice, builds your confidence and lets others know if you need help or not.
When you are ready to leave, enlist the help of human agencies or services if need be to help you move. A local church helped me for free with lightweight items so I could use my own money to pay a mover for the heavier items. I moved fast, not knowing how long the authorities would keep my ex in jail. Call around, find out who is willing to help. Shop around for good moving rates. One guy tried to jack up the price on moving, I told him to get lost. Don’t let moving scammers take advantage of your situation, by standing firm and not taking any extra-payment-needed garbage from anyone. Don’t be shy, this is a good time to build your self-esteem by standing up for yourself. Don’t tell the abuser about any of this. Plan the move when you know your partner won’t be around for a long period of time, at least a few hours. This is a new life and they have no part of it, so they need not be a part of it AT ALL.
Pre-plan how to leave with kids involved, by talking the situation over with an attorney. If you cannot afford one, call around, looking for an attorney who will do “pro-bono” work (free legal advice). They are out there, and you can find them if you look. Or, go to a Legal Aid society in your area and ask them what to do. They are in major cities, and are there to help those who cannot afford legal representation.
Move out of the person’s life abruptly, and don’t look back. If you must go to court against a spouse for any reason, take someone with you or ask the court staff to accompany you to your car if you are afraid of the person. Be proactive, defend against being a victim. I carried pepper spray in the form of a pen that I bought on an online auction. And had another in my home, too. It pays to be as prepared as possible against attacks. Some people take self-defense courses. Violence can happen in the blink of an eye, so it pays to be alert if the abuser is threatening. Do not underestimate threats. Many people are killed by thinking their spouse would never be capable of murder. Sometimes, violent threats with weapons go wrong and accidents happen. Never underestimate threats or aggression. Ever.
By being alert and pre-planning a new life, you are on your way to a more fulfilling life, if you make it so. It won’t feel good in the beginning, but it will get better, believe me. Time is your friend in this. Remember, you have worth, nobody defines you, you define yourself. In the end, it’s about taking care of yourself and removing the victim. Be a victor. It may mean sleeping on the floor of an apartment without furniture for awhile, or on a friend’s couch, but that is OK. Do whatever is best for you in the situation. Don’t look back, and have NO contact with the abuser. If you do, the person will try and make amends, to try and win you back, most likely. Believe none of it. Staying means an increase of aggression. That is part of the Cycle of Violence. You can do much better. One day at a time.
Carolyn McFann
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Neil Strauss: The Game Has Just Begun
November 3, 2009 | 3 Comments
Neil Strauss’ story is a typically American one. In fact, it has Hollywood written all over it. Interestingly, though, it’s very much real: Guy who can’t get any girls, goes to seminars about how to get girls, meets relationship gurus, becomes most famous one himself, gets more girls than he can count.
Not bad, huh? This is a guy who learned directly from the man Marie-Claire called “The World’s Greatest Pickup Artist,” Mystery, and now gives HIM tips on how to pick up women! On top of that, the guy has interviewed some of the top musical acts: Motley Crue, Marilyn Manson, Dave Navarro, Britney Spears. Heck, he even got Spears’ phone number! (But never called her.) He’s written books, including the #1 international bestseller, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Overall, not a bad resume for a guy who’s only in his thirties.
So who is Neil Strauss? Right now he’s considered the #1 pickup artist in the world. He goes by the self-selected pseudonym of “Style”, and anyone who is even remotely familiar with the seduction community will tell you who Style is. In the world of mPUAs (Master Pick-up Artists to the uninitiated), he is inspiration to millions of horny guys across the globe….and hope for many more.
Currently Neil continues his role at the forefront of the seduction community. Towards the end of 2005, Style decided that he would pass the creme de la creme of seduction knowledge to five selected followers at a three-day seminar at his California home.
In 2006, he promoted the sale of only sold 375 exclusive copies of the “Annihilation Method” program to those who arrived first on his website, http://only375.com. The demand was unprecedented, and cemented his role as not just a seduction guru, but also as seduction MASTER. And every guy who beckoned at his door, was his humble subject.
On May 31, 2006, Strauss spread the word through his VIP mailing list of his newfound “Stylelife Challenge.” The program challenges those who have trouble with women to get a date in 31 days or less. Throughout the month of July he gave daily challenges through his Stylelife website, http://www.stylelife.com.
The challenges were designed to help men change their look and overcome their fears, with the ultimate goal of “winning” a date within the 31 days. The most improved guy won a prize, but the prize for Mr. Strauss is very clear: increased exposure, more followers, and being cemented as the indisputable leader of the seduction community.
Not bad for a guy who once couldn’t get any woman, eh?
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Handling Challenges From Other Guys Talking to Your Girl
November 3, 2009 | 11 Comments
Handling Challenges From Other Guys Talking To Your Girl
Being able to handle guys who interfere with you while attracting a particular woman is really pretty easy, but important. You establish that you’re able to handle an annoying situation by using humor with a touch of sarcasm. Not enough to do damage to the intruder, but enough to be funny. And enough to create the effect of higher status. Just keep it friendly.
Here’s a few one-liners that can be used in multiple situations. Use with caution. Too many of these and YOU become the offender in the relationship your trying to establish. But if another guy gets too aggressive, by all means, pop one in conversation. Remember to keep things light and funny.
• Give him an immediate nickname like ‘Sport’, ‘Bud’, or the ever popular ‘Dude’.
• “Love the shirt man. I had one just like it a few years back.”
• Introduce yourself as the girls date.
• To the girl: “Do guys like this always try to pick you up?”
• “Hey man, you look like you feel sick. You need a ride home?” Then offer to call him a cab.
• “That’s a pretty smooth move. Got any others?”
• “You’re a funny guy. Do you go on like this all night?”
• If he interrupts, say “Excuse me, but I’ll let you know when I’m finished.”
• “I heard that’s what’s stylin’ at the city lock-up.”
• “When he does something dumb say, “Gee, I hope that wasn’t meant to impress anyone?’
• To someone trying to look preppy – “Hey, the lemmings are lining up at the right.”
Capitalizing on your opponents weakness and bringing them to the forefront is the only right thing to do. After all, you don’t want to see the girl your with get stuck with him.
Just keep your cool.
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Alex Coulson
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10 Tips for Online Dating Safety
November 2, 2009 | 10 Comments
The internet has changed the world of dating both good and bad. Finding romance is now easier than ever. That’s the good news. The bad news, of course, is that with ease also comes an increase in falling prey to dangerous situations. However, the dangers can be lessened or avoided by following some basic safety tips. Here are 10 such safety tips which can help make your online dating experience fun, positive and, above all, safe.
1) Stick with reputable online dating services. Don’t go with a service you’ve never heard of just because it’s free or cheap. Check to see how well they screen their potential members. A dating service which screens their members is often safer than those which don’t.
2) Set up an email account that you use only for dating services or chatting online such as Hotmail, Yahoo, or Gmail. Never use your personal or work email for online dating.
3) Until you really get to know the person, never divulge personal information that will make it possible for someone to locate you.
4) You should immediately cease communication with people who seem obsessed with acquiring personal information about you.
5) Be aware when talking to any potential date of the following danger signs: getting angry for no apparent reason; possessiveness; elusiveness in answering direct questions; inconsistencies in information about themselves; disrespectful remarks; request for any financial information from you. These could all be potential red flags.
6) Take it slow before you agree to meet the other person. Have several conversations on the phone with the potential date so you can detect any of the above warning signs before you agree to meet face to face. If the other person tries to push you into a meeting too quickly, you might consider moving on.
7) Don’t give your home phone number at first. When calling the person either call from a pay phone away from your neighborhood or block your number when calling.
When agreeing to meet for the first time, agree to meet in a public place with plenty of people around. Never invite a stranger into your home or to pick you up from your home. Always tell a friend or family member of your first meeting plans. You may also ask someone to call you while you’re on your first meeting/date to check up on you.
9) Limit the amount of alcohol you have on your first face-to-face meeting. Alcohol can lower your inhibitions and alter your judgment. In addition, no matter what you’re drinking, don’t ever leave your drink unattended during the date.
10) Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right about the person or situation, end the communication or date immediately. You owe no one an explanation when it concerns your safety.
You may think all the above precautions take all the fun out of online dating. However, there’s nothing fun about getting tangled up with a dangerous person. Following basic safety precautions just helps insure that the wonderful person you’re seeking is the wonderful person you end up with.
Shari Hearn
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